3 Resolutions for 2020

I’m part of the camp that strongly believes in new year’s resolutions. Mine are never measurable or super specific, but I use them as intentions that I can work on throughout the year. Since it’s already the end of January, I’ve had some time to think of my resolutions and figure out ways to start acting on them. 

Resolution #1: Figure out what makes me happy and do that. As much as I absolutely adore being a mom, I forgot who I am as a person and the things that truly make me happy. So for 2020, I want to think a little less and just do. It doesn’t have to be elaborate, it just has to bring joy. Some things that come to mind are dancing anywhere and everywhere (including embarrassingly moonwalking in public), wandering around the city, long drives with great music, eating pancakes bigger than my face, sitting on the couch listening to the rain, laughing with friends until my cheeks hurt, finding restaurants with the best ambiance, writing, “just because” flowers, cooking delicious dinners, drinking the best pinot noir, and watching countless hours of Netflix in bed. 

Resolution #2: Take each upset as an individual event and act accordingly. My mom’s death in 2007 changed me more than I knew it possibly could. It makes me learn a little bit more about myself as time goes on. One of this year’s realizations is how I view upsets. Someone called me a minimizer a few months ago and it really hit me because it’s a true statement. As crazy as this sounds, I view setbacks as more minuscule than they might be, because I subconsciously compare it to losing my mom. Very few things will be as upsetting as that, but I want to focus this year on treating each negative event as its own. Analyze the situation, make a change, and move on.

Resolution #3: Surround myself with people who inspire me to be the best version of myself.  I’ve never been the type of person who valued the number of friends I had. It’s always been quality over quantity. I’m extremely picky with the people I let into my life and I want to continue this for 2020. I want to remember to always surround myself with people who get me and lift me up, as opposed to being a dark cloud for one reason or an other. There’s that phrase – “you are the company you keep.” I want to remember the importance of this. The goal is to spend the year with friends who push me to do more and be more, but who still love me at my core. 

As we move forward in 2020, I’m keeping in mind this quote that I found recently on IG. 

“Life is nothing but moments. That fight you had with your best friend is just a moment. The time you were up all night finishing a project is just a moment. The night you watched the sunset with the boy you thought you were going to marry is just a moment. The road trip you spent with your friends singing to throwbacks is just a moment. Every up and down and everything in between is just a moment that passes with time. You may remember these moments and you may not, but what you will remember is the people you spent them with and the way you felt. The way she made you laugh, the way he made you cry, and the way they made you feel like you were on top of the world when you were nowhere but with your best friends. All of these moments and feelings and people combine to make up a bigger moment that we call life.” – Victoria Quance